At one job I had, a lot of people came to me and asked for advice. A younger friend, looking very depressed, they asked for advice on what to do. They explained that someone they really liked, put them into the friend zone. I asked a few questions.
“If this person were a type, would you be into them?”
Friend: Yes.
“Are there a lot of people that have similar personalities?”
Friend: Yes.
“Are there a lot of people that have similar looks?”
Friend Yes.
“So if you met someone like them later, you would be into them”
Friend: Oh yea.
I explained; “Great! The friend zone is a divine gift! You have a perfect opportunity here, one, not everyone has. You have a perfect opportunity to get to know that person or the type they like. You are finding out what they like and what bugs them. So next time you meet someone of that type, you will already be prepared. Just be a good friend for now and enjoy yourself.”
My friend’s entire countenance lit up; “Oh! Why didn’t I think of that?”
That’s generally good advice when you’re young. Older people when dating do not have that luxury, and the friend zone is generally a rejection at that point.
Still, I think that situation is a little rare. I don’t see that happening very often. Most of the time people say friend zone, they really are trying to reject you politely. If you were friends before, they want to remain that way, if you’re acquaintances or strangers, they don’t want anything to do with you.
When it comes to attracting the right person into your life, the experience will really help out. Get to know as many people as you can in dating. Experience in dating, time, and clarity focusing on the outcome of what you want will go a long way to help out. You’ll not only attract the right person in your life, but someone who will assist you in reaching your potential.
No one likes rejection. It’s pretty devastating the first time, but it’s like a muscle. The more you work on it and don’t overdo it, the stronger it will become. This goes with a lot of other aspects of your life, like being outgoing and funny. There are more important things to worry about, like your approach for the next time.